this serious thing.

I wanted to experience more of my freedom before committing myself to something so serious...something that would change my life and my priorities. It’s not that I don’t want "change", perhaps, I’m just afraid of what might happen because personally I don’t know what to do and how to adapt to that certain change in my life. I know I should be thankful. I know I will someday but right now, I really don’t know what to feel.  

Its not that I’m not ready for anything. Maybe I’m still enjoying my life now and to be honest, I’m a bit afraid of taking chances.  I’m afraid that this “serious thing” might just ruin what we have now…because now we are so much better being “in a relationship”. I know that this “serious thing” will make it more right but I don’t know how to take that risk. So many "what-if-questions" pre occupied me whenever I think of settling down. I know that its not that complicated as what I think it is…but no one can blame me for thinking this way because I've witnessed so many cases of broken family and failed relationships. 

I don’t know what will happen in the future and the only thing I knew is that it’s up to me and him whether we will make our family life worth living for.

compromise.

hi world. I'm back. i am not really sure if its for long. good thing, i have something to write about, but  not so sure if it will have sense at all. i don't know why i started writing again? its probably one way of excusing myself not to do my assignment in Cardio, which is almost a week late. Gosh, I've been wasting a lot of my precious time doing nothing and thinking what i should do? waaaaaaaaaaahh, nonsense.

lately, I've been distracted reading novels again. i was convinced to start reading the 50 shades of grey trilogy, which was suggested by some of my friends online. i enjoyed the first book. it will definitely possessed you...making you vulnerable and wanting...

the story was mainly about the love and sex affair of Christian Grey, a business tycoon, and Anastasia Steele, a college graduate. it is mostly about abnormal sexual practices, interplay between dominance and submission. because of its bold and erotic story lines, the 2nd and 3rd book was banned in UAE.

I'm done reading the book 1 and all i can say is that "relationship is not solely about sex." Christian Grey might have influenced us that being dominant in a relationship allows you to get whatever you want. On the other hand, Anastasia Steele highlights the importance of "compromise" which will allow both parties to benefit with each other. 

To COMPROMISE means...

                 ... to cooperate
                 ... to make settlement
                 ... to negotiate
                 ... to understand
                 ... to give and take.

This powerful word is the very reason why relationship last long.

Last week (August 1, 2012), we celebrated our 3rd year anniversary. we both are very happy because even if we don't have that perfect relationship, we are able to tolerate each other that long. i just hope to have more years with him.

more, more love on our 3rd year.

Winnipeg, Manitoba

The Forks

MTS Centre

 The Canadian Mint

 Bridge Drive-in

 Portage Place

Kildonan Place

at the backyard

The Chapters

Winnipeg Convention Centre

Polo Park

The Legislative Building

Club Regent Casino

selfish me.

I was watching PBB Teen Edition last night. Since its mother's day, Big Brother allowed the housemates to meet and talk to their mom in person. They were asked by kuya whether they would want their mom to visit. Each one of them will enter a dark room, inside is one table with a lamp. If they want to invite their mom to come, they need to turn on the lamp. Almost all of them want their mom to come and join them but one housemate refuses to do so. Its not that she doesn't like to see her mom. It's not that she doesn't miss her. She decided not to invite her because no one will take care of her brothers and sisters at home. She was trying to tell herself that she can manage alone but her siblings might without her mom. See how much she loves and cares for her family? Watching that episode made me realize how selfish I am. Just today, I was feeling sad because my bf will go for vacation tom and unluckily I will not be with him. Selfish me! I should be happy for him because he will be with his family again after almost 11 months. I feel so bad being me. This just proves how selfish and immature I am. Sorry...

Happy Nurses' Day 2012!

Dapithapon

“A test of a people is how it behaves toward the old. It is easy to love children. Even tyrants and 

dictators make a point of being fond of children. But the affection and care for the old, the incurable, the helpless are the true gold mines of a culture.”

--Abraham J. Heschel

Most of us have this feeling of not wanting to grow old. Personally, growing old is one of my many fears. Hair loss, wrinkles, poor vision, lessened hearing ability and decreased functioning are just some of those many changes that comes with old age but it is not the reason why I am scared of becoming old. These physical changes are inevitable part of the aging process and everyone will experience it someday. 

What is it that I fear about growing old?

After watching the documentary film "Dapithapon", I was finally able to answer myself. Growing old alone is what truly frightens me! Having no one to share your sentiments in life can be very depressing and lonely. 

Looking at the life of Lola Anching and Lola Lydia on how in a very old age they still manage to earn a living is deeply hurting. With their condition, they should be just relaxing and enjoying the rest of their days but because of poverty they couldn't just sit around. Just like in the case of Lola Anching who is hoping to somehow help her family by selling goods in the street. I was greatly moved how she is sacrificing to sleep in the doorstep of their house because there was no more room 

for her to stay in.

The film does not only portray the issue of poverty but as well as the lack of care and concern of the

family for the elderly. It was also shown in the documentary the life of many abandoned elderly inside the home for the aged center wherein they are being taken care of strangers instead of their own relatives. Being part of the family, our grandmothers and grandfathers have the right to be loved and cared of.

Lessons Learned:

• Patience and respect is what they really needed. Taking care of the elderly will really test our patience so by putting ourselves in their position can somehow help us to understand them better. Let us make them feel that they are appreciated and well respected by listening in whatever they have to say.

• Be thankful for everything. In spite their unfortunate living condition, Lola Anching and Lola Lydia has still something to be thankful of: they are still surviving!

Care for the elderly: family or government's responsibility?

Both the family and the government have the responsibility of giving care and assistance to the older population. According to the 1987 Constitution of the Republic of the Philippines Article XV The family Section IV, "The family has the duty to care for its elderly members but the state may also do so through just programs of social security. The government has vital role in encouraging the families to care for the elderly by formulating and implementing policies.

Should they be discouraged from earning their living?

The government has the duty to assist those senior citizens who still wishes to work and is capable to do so by providing them of information and services which will help them to be productive. Training programs to develop or enhance their skills will be implemented by some of the government agencies such as the Department of Labor and Employment (DOLE) and Department of Trade and Industry (DTI).

If they still have the capability to work and if that is really what they want then let us give them the opportunity to be fruitful but not to the point that the burden of supporting the family for a living will still be on their shoulder.

other videos: 
Dapithapon (2 of 5)
Dapithapon (3 of 5)
Dapithapon (5 of 5)

References:

• Natividad, et al (2005). Caring for the Older Person. UP Open University.
• Philippine Constitutional Law. Retrieved from http://www.chanrobles.com/article15family.htm
• Republic Act no. 9257. retrieved from http://www.chanrobles.com/republicactno9257.htm

Let's talk about the Ageing Population

Population ageing is considered to be a global trend which can affect the social and economic aspect of the country.  It has also a great impact on the health of the people. As mentioned in the modules, population ageing is addressed by countries in a different way as influenced by their own culture.

UAE at a glance

I am working here in United Arab Emirates for almost 4 years now and I can say that the local people here are very fortunate because they are well taken cared of by the government. When it comes to Education, housing and health care, UAE Nationals are almost free. Almost every services are funded by the government. Cost of Health care for all ages is never an issue for them.

Just like in a typical Filipino culture, the family has full participation in taking care of their elderly members. For them, senior citizens can be a great source of guidance and wisdom. One can learn from their experiences that is why most often the advices from the elderly matters a lot to them. There are also available government programs for them which give a comprehensive health care services including social security. 

Home care services are also offered to elderly people. This is catered by a team which includes nurses, medical technologists, physical therapist and doctors. They visit elderly at home to follow-up their health care. Wound care for pressure sore and diabetic foot ulcer, checking of vital signs and blood sugar, physical therapy and laboratory exams are just some of the services provided.

Philippine scenario

Elderly are faced with numerous health problems so they require assistance and special kind of care and unfortunately not all of them are lucky to receive it. That is very true in the Philippines, wherein not everyone can afford the health care services and the country’s resources is not enough to support the needs of these people.

Somehow, efforts had been made by the government to ensure adequate health care for the elderly. According to the Expanded Senior Citizen’s Act of 2010, senior citizens are entitled to a 20% discounts with VAT exemption. But let’s face it; this medical discount for senior citizens is not enough guarantee that the elderly are getting appropriate and quality health care. I pity those elderly who has no resources and no family at all. Who will ensure that they will get the appropriate care they need?

In addressing the challenges of the aging population, the government and the people should work hand in hand with each other. Here are some of the possible solutions:

• The government should continue to provide programs which will protect the well being of the older population. Collaboration with the private sectors in providing a more accessible health care for the elderly population in an affordable cost.
• We should continue to uphold our culture which values strong family ties. Love, understanding and care must be extended to the elderly member of our family. 
• While we are still active and able to work, take the opportunity to save for the future.

References:

1.      Natividad, et al (2005). Caring for Older Person. UP Open University.

2.      Enriquez, K. G. (2010, February 26). RA No. 9994: The Expanded Senior Citizens Act of 2010. Retrieved from http://www.pwc.com/ph/en/taxwise-or-otherwise/2010/RA-9994-expanded-senior-citizens-act-2010.jhtml

3.      Seniors in Abu Dhabi. Retrieved from http://www.abudhabi.ae/egovPoolPortal_WAR/appmanager/ADeGP/Citizen?_nfpb=true&_pageLabel=p_citizen_en_homepage_hidenav&did=279778&lang=en#279780

4.      Gaston, G. World Population Collapse: Lessons for the Philippines. Retrieved from http://lifeissues.net/writers/gas/gas_01populationcollapse.html